Aggression and Childbirth
Before we get into anti-social aggression, let’s acknowledge off the top that any form of life without aggression is impossible and undesirable. Sure, you can close your eyes and imagine a world where no one ever cuts in front of you in line (and if you become some kind of god later on, by all [...]
The Ninety Percenters
A couple of months ago, I got the following comment on the Goodreads feed for one of my blogs on pornography. The comment read: What do you say about the statistics that show upwards of 90% of pornographic actresses have suffered some form of sexual abuse? That it’s a corollary of the intense — and [...]
The Two-Word Solution to Anti-Social Aggression
Touch kids. That’s it. I’ll expand on that below, but if you don’t like reading, you can surf away knowing that you have the answer. The relation between touch-deprivation and violence is in no way a hippie-dippie or Jesus-freaky fantasy about the world. It is well understood and has been for decades. I’ll give a [...]
Aggression: Are All Men Potential Rapists?
A couple of posts ago, I wrote about castration of men as a sexual fantasy or behavior. This sent me back to the UCLA library to take a look at the books that had originally taught me about male aggression and what causes it to turn anti-social. So in this blog and maybe another few [...]
Pornography: Aleksander Štulhofer
In my investigation into how porn affects the sexual attitudes of young teens, I ran across the work of a terrific sex researcher from Croatia who has done some even-handed studies about porn, the latest trying to see if he could confirm the sacrosanct assumption, all but universally held by US researchers, that porn use [...]
Overuse and Abuse of the R-Word
On account of the kind of writing I do, I am considered to be a sex expert in my circles, so the other day I got a panicked call from a friend saying that a former coworker of hers had just been convicted of third-degree rape. She was too shaken to google properly, so had [...]
Pornography: The Anti-Porn Model
In my next few posts on pornography, I’ll start examining the theoretical basis for our general cultural freakout about teen’s access to porn. My basic position is that kids make a move to satisfy their sexual curiosity when they are ready to and not before. When folks study how viewing of porn does affect kids, [...]
Male Circumcision or Women’s Health, Not Both: The Case of Zambia
Feminism is, needless to say, not a monolith. I am happy to report that there are many feminists who are against male circumcision as an integral part of their stance against all genital cutting. See here, for instance. But there is a pretty strong strain of feminism which somehow feels that a single word said [...]
Oh My God! Oh My God! Oh My God!
I recently spent a few days in a 50′s era spa hotel with paper-thin walls. The couple next door had come to the hotel on a fuck-cation. (If anyone can come up with a more awkward pun word for a holiday where the primary purpose is to make love, please submit it in a comment. [...]
Pornography: Is It Ruining Our Kids?
Regardless of how relaxed people are on the topic of porn, everyone seems fairly concerned about today’s generation being exposed to internet porn at a young age. What I hear goes something like this, “I was only looking at Playboy or Hustler growing up. These kids have seen a woman with a fist up her [...]
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